Montessouri at Home by Carl C. Jones

Author:Carl C. Jones
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: montessori, child education, montessori toddler, montessori parent, self discipline, home schooling
Publisher: Carl C. Jones
Published: 2020-04-27T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter 12: Helping Your Toddler with Aggression and Tantrums

It can be habitual for some toddlers to suddenly react aggressively to situations or even have tantrums. This behavior is not uncontrollable if you use the right method. In this chapter, you will learn how to control your toddler's aggressive attitudes and tantrums. Parents should resist the temptation to view an aggressive child younger than age three as naughty or bad. Basically, the reason toddlers get aggressive is that they are trying to communicate a pressing concern, and since their capacity for speech or other forms of facial and emotional communication is not yet developed, they result in emotional outrage to make their grievances known. It also happens when toddlers observe that they have not been able to get a reaction from you, so they employ violence or wild screaming as a tool to get it.

For children, a tantrum is a form of protest when there is a hindrance to the essential things they need to thrive. These things that toddlers protest for could fall in negative categories such as screaming for other toddlers' toys, crying to use an object that is hazardous or pleading for something that is messy. In the positive context, toddlers may disrupt the serenity of the environment to protest for food, attention, a cuddle, and so on. Also, they may react aggressively or throw a tantrum when they are fatigued, hungry, feeling sick, or distressed.

How Parents Ought to Respond to Aggression and Tantrums

One of the erroneous ways to approach aggression and tantrums is punishment. In fact, responding to them similarly with anger or displeasure will only increase the intensity of the screaming since it reinforces the sense of being aggrieved.

Did you know that aggression in your toddlers can be used to your own advantage? It can be reinterpreted by making the child understand what they really want and teaching them to convey it in simple language and mild expressions.

Montessori Styles of Handling Aggression and Tantrums in Toddlers: End the Aggression

In the mildest way that you can, do what you have to do to stop the aggression. For example, if they are hitting you or they are just attempting to, ensure their hands are firmly stopped from moving. However, you should do this with a mild expression. If your toddler handles a gun that has been loaded, you would surely want to stop them from using it, wouldn’t you? The same idea applies to any item whether hazardous or not that your toddler is using to attack you. When your children employ their body parts like nails, teeth, hands, and legs to hit you, you need to stop them. In this way, you are instructing them that the use of any natural or artificial weapon is prohibited.

Remove Your Toddler from Public View - If at the time of the aggression or tantrum you are in a public place, carry your toddler to a private place. This might mean engaging them when they are in the very act of kicking or screaming.

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